I've been tagged by Mrs JC in this #meme started by Sex, Drugs, Rocker and Stroller.
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Righty-o. Lets crack on, shall we?
How and when do you find the time to...
... do your laundry?
I live in a family of seven, including a toddler and a teenager, and BOYS. Three of them... My life is a constant merry-go-round of laundry. On the two occasions that my washing machine has broken I have practically had a nervous breakdown at the prospect of not being able to do the laundry. It is done daily, at least one load, usually two. The toddler fortunately isn't too hard on her clothes but the boys come home from school looking like they've been mud wrestling or knee-skidding through grass. The teenager, my word, it's like an awards ceremony with the amount of outfit changes she can go through in a day. I am lucky in that I have a utility room, otherwise my house would look like Widow Twanky's laundry. Just call me wishy-washy.
... write a blog post?
Evenings usually, when the small ones are in bed and the television has been taken over for Football or The Vampire Diaries. I hide myself away in our little office, and blog away to my heart's content. Often I draft them in my head beforehand, it's just a case of wittering them all out in to blogger before they disappear off to the realms of what I was meant to do yesterday, and where did I leave my keys...? Scheduling is my friend, it allows me to keep things ticking over even when I don't have a chance to get on the PC.
... look after yourself (ie; wash your hair, paint your nails, take a bubble bath etc)?
Again, evenings. I'm not an enormous fan of the bubble bath I have to admit, it's a bit like stewing in your own juices for my liking and I always feel the need to shower after, so unless I have had a particularly exhausting day that requires a bit of lazing in the tub, then I cut out the middle man and go straight for the shower.
Painting my nails, either teen does that for me (the joy of a teenage daughter who likes to beautify everything) or I call in my lovely friend Shelley to come & sort my feet out for me. I rarely paint my fingernails (unless, as I said, teen does it) because I am always so hands-on with everything they only last five minutes & it's a faff to have to keep touching my nails up. But I do like having pretty feet, and so Shelley introduced me to the wonders of nail wraps which are still going strong after a month, they'll need re-doing but only because they will have grown out, not because they have chipped off.
I'm very low maintenance. I don't have a lot of time for faffing with hair, make up & nails and so I stick with minimum effort for every day (light & natural make up, clean fingernails, semi-styled in a messy bun hair) and then I glam up for evenings out (a proper face of make up, fancy nails, styled hair). I always wonder where the fun would be in glamming up for a night out somewhere, if you spend every day caked in make up and done up to the nines anyway? Not really my thing.
... spend time with your other half?
Er... Am I supposed to do that then? ;)
We've been married for over ten years now. We've reached a stage where we know that it is great to spend all of our time together and be together etc etc, but it is also great to spend an evening just sitting together, even if we don't speak. I can be sitting on the sofa reading, while he watches 'Top Gear' or whatever, and we don't *need* to be in each others pockets and spend every hour of every day with each other. Just knowing that the other is there is more than enough.
We have our date nights, my niece will babysit and he & I will go out for dinner and then to see a movie, and we thoroughly enjoy that time, just as much as we enjoy cuddling up on the sofa at home & watching 'Swamp People'.
... do fun stuff with your LO?
We manage to find fun stuff to do every day even if it is just at home making biscuits or colouring pictures. We go on days out, holidays, weekends away, we go for family walks in the woods, evenings watching the balloons take off from the park, watching sunsets at the white horse, scooting through the country park... There is fun to be found in every day activities, they help me make dinner, we have impromptu movie afternoons after school and they'll all pile on the sofa while I fold laundry in the room with them, we sit and play Happyland while we eat our lunch. The time is there, we just have to use it wisely.
... spend time with family?
As mentioned above ^^ we grab every available opportunity to get away and do things together. Everything else can wait. I would rather come home to a sink full of dishes after a great day out with them, than spend time cleaning while they sit around at home feeling bored. They're only little for such a short time. Get out and enjoy it, the dishes will still be there when you get back.
As for my extended family, I spend a lot of time with one of my sisters and her two children. We take the kids to stay-&-plays, or go shopping, or just hang out together at our houses. I see my other siblings here and there but everyone is busy so we usually just keep in touch by text. We have had a family barbecue for Father's Day every year but I don't know if it will take place this year due to unforeseen circumstances. It'll be a shame if not, as last year we lost our Grampy just after Father's Day and it would have been a nice way to remember him a year on, to have a little tribute to him, to be there for our parents & mark the anniversary of his passing, and also spend time all together with all of the children so they can play, but... we will see.
... socialise with friends?
As the years have gone on I have seen my circle of friends dwindle down to almost zero. I admit I haven't always been proactive with arranging nights out, get togethers etc. But friendship is a two way street and if at any point I have felt like I was making more effort than the other person, or they were not responding to my efforts with them, or like we have grown apart, then I have taken a step back & distanced myself. My time is precious, if I am not spending it with my family then I will only make time for those who are willing to make time for me.
Therefore, I don't see many nights out or 'friends' any more. But the ones I have left are the genuine ones, who I know are there for me when I need them, and vice versa. So, not much socialising going on, but I do have a couple of true friends at the end of the phone who are there for a shoulder & an ear when I need them. You know who you are, innit.
... prepare an evening meal juggling a baby/toddler routine?
We have dinner between 5.30-6.30 every day. Bedtime is 7.30 onwards. Dinner, bath time, bed time. It's pretty standard. If I can I prepare the meal during the day, or throw it in the slow cooker if I am able, otherwise the kids pitch in and help prepare dinner while we talk about their day at school and toddler will sit at the table cutting up vegetables with her plastic cutlery, or sorting pennies in to jars, or drawing. Sometimes if I have the music on she dances on the table, but that is not something I encourage, and also something I hope is not a prelude to a future career.... *worried face*
... deep clean your house?
Um. Er, we do that every day, yea... *cough*... Ok really, about once a month/maybe six weeks on a Sunday we all spend the day having a big clear up together. Everyone cleans their bedrooms, we find any stray laundry and wash it, we all have a room to do and we all help get it done. Then we have a massive roast dinner and watch movies all afternoon. It's not an exact science but it works for us.
Our house is not spotless, it's lived in. Sometimes it looks lived in by a gang of hobos with a housework phobia, but it is clean even if it is not tidy. There are usually toys on the floor somewhere, maybe a plate & a couple of cups by the sink and probably a pair of socks stuffed down the side of the sofa, but that's because we LIVE IN our home, it's not a show house.
... do the food shopping?
I meal plan and grocery shop online every Monday a week in advance. Our groceries are delivered on Mondays, after they arrive I sit and choose the meals for the following week and order everything in. I refuse to drag my kids around the supermarket after they've been at school all day. I hate supermarkets, they hate supermarkets, it's just less stressful for everyone to do it online. PLUS, it saves me money because I am not tempted to pick things up as I go round. I get what I need for my meals as well as our regular buys, job done.
... bulk ironing?
*falls about laughing* the ironing is done as and when it is needed. We operate a iron-and-wear policy in this house.
Allllllrighty then. Who shall I tag...?
I pick Confessions of a Stay-at-home Mum, New Mum Online and Brownlee Banter.
Take it away, ladies x