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Wednesday, 3 April 2013

Over the past six months or so, it has really dawned on me how grown up my children are now. In terms of age that is, the general ass-hattery of their behaviour on occasion would make you think otherwise. But I digress...

The conversations that I am having with the kids now are things like GCSEs, A-levels, university, prom, dating, going out (alone) with friends to town or the cinema or up the park for some footy. Their needs are changing, as are their desires. A year ago they were, for example, all happy to come on a walk or go and see a movie. Now they're at an age where they know much more of their own minds and want to exercise their right to an opinion as to whether they come and what we watch. Our relationships are so much more complex, tweens and teens are a whole new world.

I now have to ask them if they want to join in with a day out, rather than "We're off to the Zoo on Saturday" it's more like "We're thinking of going to the Zoo on Saturday, if you'd like to come?". Maybe they have other plans, maybe they think they are just 'too old' for the Zoo. Luckily, so far we have always been met with favourable responses, because to me a family day out simply isn't a family day out if we aren't all there to enjoy it together. And we still enjoy our family movie & game nights. But I do think about the future, when the time comes that they are out with friends or away at university, and they won't be able to come with us. When our house will be much quieter.

It's a while off I suppose, but not really that long of a while. Soon it seems it could just be us and E. Time lately seems to be on wheels, weeks whizzing past before I have realised what day it is. Before I know it, they will all be grown up and off doing new things with new people in new places.

So for now, I am enjoying the time we have. I am trying to ignore it when they bicker or whinge or moan. Because honestly, they won't be with me here forever, and I am determined to enjoy the quality time we have together while it lasts.

I have linked this post with #TheGallery at The Sticky Fingers Blog.

14 comments:

  1. Ahhh so true - time does go by so quickly. I remember in my teens I suddenly decided I was all grown up and didn't want to do everything with my parents anymore. Then I reached my 20s and actually wanted to spend time with them again, out of choice! :) So I hope yours do exactly that too.

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  2. Thank you, I am dreading the day when they either don't want to or can't come on holidays and days out. They are growing up so fast! x

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  3. Eeek! I'm not looking forward to those years when they don't want to spend time with me lol! It is great though to see them growing and enjoying their own social lives. Lovely picture.

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  4. My son has just turned 7 and Minxy turns 9 on Monday - crazy! Like notmyyearoff I wanted space as a teen but now at 27 i spend a lot of time with my parents at quiz nights, poker, meals etc. They are super as parents and grandparents. I'm sure your not so little people will always know where home is :) x

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  5. I know that feeling well my daughter has just turned 12 and it really made me think that in a few yrs time she will be off! .. scary!

    Great picture :-)

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  6. It's scary to think how little time we really have with our children before they branch out on their own. It's my dearest hope that I can raise kids who don't hate spending time with their parents *too* much as they get older!

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  7. you've reminded me to really savour the time when they're little.

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  8. It is crazy how fast time goes and quick our babies grow up! I am not looking forward to the teenage years because I know shortly after that follows, there independence/college/uni.. LEAVING HOME! Eek.
    I really love that photo, aww. Adorable. I can't believe how fast they're all growing Especially A and J! x

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  9. Such a lovely post and so true! Mine aren't as old as yours on the whole, but I can see my eldest pulling away from us a bit and wanting to do his own thing. It's sad that this has to happen, but they have to go and make their own adventures.

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  10. Time does fly! I want my daughter to be nearby forever, but she needs to follow her heart and do what is best for her.

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  11. Love this. I'm very mindful of this as I've often heard Becky at English Mum say how her boys no longer 'need' her and it's so painful when you've been the one to do everything with them.

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  12. Oh so true. It's really hit home for me recently - one doing GCSEs, one doing A levels... I go to bed before them and their social life is way better! Wonder if it's too late to have another baby...? (jokes) x

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  13. It probably sounds silly but sometimes when I really dwell on it, it makes me panic a little. That they won't need me or want to see me. What will I do without them? At the same time I am really looking forward to seeing the grown ups they will become. Exciting times are yet to come :)

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  14. K is off on his 2nd holiday with friends and their family, which means they are pretty much left to it. I still can't get used to the fact he doesn't need me to hold his and to cross over.....yet he's on hols without me!?!?
    There's now another man in my house, an I am finding it hard x

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