The conversations that I am having with the kids now are things like GCSEs, A-levels, university, prom, dating, going out (alone) with friends to town or the cinema or up the park for some footy. Their needs are changing, as are their desires. A year ago they were, for example, all happy to come on a walk or go and see a movie. Now they're at an age where they know much more of their own minds and want to exercise their right to an opinion as to whether they come and what we watch. Our relationships are so much more complex, tweens and teens are a whole new world.
I now have to ask them if they want to join in with a day out, rather than "We're off to the Zoo on Saturday" it's more like "We're thinking of going to the Zoo on Saturday, if you'd like to come?". Maybe they have other plans, maybe they think they are just 'too old' for the Zoo. Luckily, so far we have always been met with favourable responses, because to me a family day out simply isn't a family day out if we aren't all there to enjoy it together. And we still enjoy our family movie & game nights. But I do think about the future, when the time comes that they are out with friends or away at university, and they won't be able to come with us. When our house will be much quieter.
It's a while off I suppose, but not really that long of a while. Soon it seems it could just be us and E. Time lately seems to be on wheels, weeks whizzing past before I have realised what day it is. Before I know it, they will all be grown up and off doing new things with new people in new places.
So for now, I am enjoying the time we have. I am trying to ignore it when they bicker or whinge or moan. Because honestly, they won't be with me here forever, and I am determined to enjoy the quality time we have together while it lasts.
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