Mama OWL Blog: Finding Calm Amongst The Chaos

Finding Calm Amongst The Chaos

Wednesday, 10 August 2016

This year has been... Challenging. So many changes in my life and at home, lots of ups and downs, new beginnings. The kids are all in for some big changes this coming school year and the stress of it all has been hard to manage. My brain has felt chaotic for months, trying to navigate my way through as well as steer the kids at the same time whilst still managing the day to day has been hard work. But I've done it and we are all still in one piece. The Summer holidays were welcomed with open arms, some days the end of July felt a very long way off. Though perhaps ask me again in a couple more weeks I'll probably be counting down the days until they go back to school...

A couple of weeks ago our eldest turned 18 and a month today, it will be Uni 'moving in day' for her - depending on those A level results next week of course. I think that A thought that turning 18 turned her into an adult, she has yet to realise that that actually comes from experience and she has a while to wait yet, and a lot of growing up still to do. In a few weeks she will have to go and stand on her own two feet, manage her own finances and pay her own way - rent, bills, her own mobile phone... The bank of mum and dad is closed, except in cases of emergency. I've talked before about how to raise a successful human being, now it's time to put it into practice.
After starting his GCSEs way back in year 9, it's now 'game day' for J with him going in to year 11 in September. He's got lots to look forward to this year - turning 16 in February and going on the school ski trip to Andorra not long after that, and of course the prom after his final exams but there is also a lot of work to be done and he's got to knuckle down and really put his mind to it. I know he is capable of achieving good results, the trick will be getting him to realise this too. Wish us luck!
Year 7 was very difficult for L but I am pleased to say that year 8 was a vast improvement. In September he will start year 9 and begin his GCSE studies. He chose his options at the end of last term, and has been supported well at school to make the best choices for his needs. He has grown up so much in the past year, physically and emotionally. I'm looking forward to seeing where the next year takes us and the progress he will make, he is growing up to be a funny and lovely young man and I am so proud of how far he has come after a very difficult start to school life.
It's the final year of primary school for H starting in September, year 6 is looming. He was emotional on the last day of term with all of his friends in year 6 heading off to new adventures at their chosen secondary schools. I also think the realisation that that will be him next year had started to sink in, he's a strapping lad for 10 but he is also very sensitive and thoughtful, the transition to 'big school' could be a tough one for him but we have a year to prepare. I know he will love it, but I'm glad he still has another year to be a little kid and enjoy primary school. They do change once they get to senior school and I'm not quite ready to let him grow up just yet.
Last but by no means least, E will be starting year 2. She has absolutely flown through the past two years at school and I struggle to keep up with her at times. She's a whirlwind and constantly needs things to keep her inquisitive mind occupied. She wants to see and know and do, and while she is still a little sponge I will keep feeding her with everything she needs to flourish (though it's bloody exhausting at times). She managed to complete all of the reading levels at school by the end of term to become a 'free reader', and so far through the holidays she has had me printing off crosswords and word searches as well as making up spelling tests for her. She's completed this year's Summer Reading Challenge, and brought home three more books from the library to celebrate. There is just no stopping her, she is a real force of nature.
It's such a cliché but I honestly don't know where the time has gone. Next week I'll have three teenagers with L turning 13 on Friday, and then this time next year I'll have only one child left in primary school. At times I find myself sitting at the kitchen table at mealtimes just watching them all and wondering where the bloody years went. Where are my kids? Who are these huge hulking men taking up all the room on the sofa? Why do I have no food left when I only went shopping yesterday?

With things a little calmer at home for the next few weeks, I plan to try and get back into blogging, I've missed having the time to put my thoughts into words and I think for me it helps keep the noise in my brain down to a dull roar to have an outlet for it - hopefully it will help me find some calm in amongst all of the chaos. Right now the Summer is in full swing and we are making the most of it - we've enjoyed the beach, the park and some swimming as well as fun at home in the garden and trips to the cinema which I'll look forward to sharing with you soon.


  1. Julie how on earth have you allowed them to grow up? I remember A being a small child and J being born... Blimey!!

  2. With one child going into year 11 and one going into year 6, I can so relate to this! The time really does fly and every year brings so many changes, but year 6 and year 11 seem like particularly big changes! I am already working on my eldest managing his expectations about becoming an adult - like you say, they don't automatically become an 'adult' when they turn 18, but they have to start taking a lot more responsibility and paying their way. I think they might wonder why they were in such a hurry to grow up when that happens!


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